I’ve had a good number of birthday’s
and the greatest ones were filled with LOVE
to and from the people I love most.
Never underestimate the difference a call or text message makes.
Getting long distance hugs are the next best thing to getting in person ones.
It is LOVE that moves mountains, creates hope, uplifts and inspires us all.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart to all who gave me love on this day.
I will always love you!
If you wish to better your life, then you must release all belief that by so doing you will be a better person. The key is in knowing that you are a supreme being just as you are and that “bettering your life” is just a means of self-expression. It is your divine expression to live according to your grandest preferences—not because it will make you better but because you are serving as a result of discovering and expressing the best you have within you.”
— Barbara Rose, PhD.
“Never forget, then that you set the value on what you receive, and price it by what you give.”
— A Course in Miracles
“Here is how you will know if you are living your life purpose: just ask yourself one simple question: ‘Would you do what you are doing now for FREE for the rest of your life, if money was not an issue?’ When your answer is YES, then you are living the life you came into this life to live” — Barbara Rose, Phd
The words “genius” and “genuine” derive from the same root. The core of genius is authenticity.
— Alan Cohen
“There are two mistakes one can make along the road… not going all the way and not starting.” — Gautama Siddhartha
“There are two mistakes one can make along the road… not going all the way and not starting.” — Gautama Siddhartha
“If you don’t disturb yourself, like a broken gong does not vibrate, then you have achieved nirvana. Irritability no longer exists for you.” — Gautama Buddha
“When we meet real tragedy, we can react in two ways: Either by losing hope and falling into self-destructive habits … or by using the challenge to find our inner strength.” — The Dalai Lama
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” — Albert Einstein
“Love one another but make not a bond of love, let there be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone.” — Kahlil Gibran
“…the sole purpose is to provide infinite springs, at which the soul may allay the eternal thirst TO KNOW which is forever unquenchable within it, since to quench it, would be to extinguish the soul’s self…” — Edgar Allan Poe
“I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship. I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings. My wisdom flows from the Highest Source. I salute that Source in you. Let us work together for unity and love.”
— Mahatma Gandhi – Prayer for Peace
— George Bernard Shaw
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” — Anais Nin
“We can chart our future clearly and wisely only when we know… the path which has led to the present.” — Adlai E. Stevenson
“Being with others is beautiful, and being alone is beautiful. Then, it is simple too. You don’t depend on others and you don’t make others dependent on you. Then it is always a friendship, a friendliness. It never becomes a relationship, it is always a relatedness. You relate, but you don’t create a marriage. Marriage is out of fear, relatedness is out of love. You relate; as long as things are moving beautifully, you share.” — Osho
“We are all part of the One Spirit. When you experience the true meaning of religion, which is to know God, you will realize that He is your Self, and that He exists equally and impartially in all beings.” -–Paramahansa Yogananda
“The period of greatest gain in knowledge and experience is the most difficult period in one’s life.” — Dalai Lama
“Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Your imagination is your preview to life’s coming attractions.” — Albert Einstein
“From the dawn of humanity to the eternal moment of now We each have within our cellular memory The wisdom we have lived, learned, and continue to share for the advancement of humanity. By sharing our gifts, and bringing light to shine on the gifts of others, We transcend all limitations, as we acknowledge the divine within Us all.” — Barbara Rose, PhD
“So many people work so hard, to achieve, attain, accumulate and cherish their fortunes. How many of us blissfully fill our days and nights being the Divine expression we are? This is the meaning of life. It is to be. As a result, all of your creations are a natural outflow from the Divine within your being. This is the joy of life.” -– Barbara Rose, PhD
“Passion with another cannot sustain a relationship. Passion exists in the moment, and this moment passes into a memory. In order to sustain a relationship, you must be passionately alive. As a result, you will continue to bring your passion to the one you love. You will not need it to come from another, because you will be sharing your abounding supply from within you.” -– Barbara Rose, PhD
“No matter what difficulty you are facing, it is coming from Divine Light to bring you to a higher place within. Write down every conceivable reason that this situation can contribute towards your growth. Write down every way this experience can possibly set the stage for serving to uplift others. When you are complete, and have come to the other side of this experience, you will then know ‘why’ it happened.” __ Barbara Rose, PhD
“Even the most daring and accomplished people have undergone tremendous difficulty. In fact, the more successful they became, the more they attributed their success to the lessons learned during their most difficult times. Adversity is our teacher. When we view adversity as a guide towards greater inner growth, we will then learn to accept the wisdom our soul came into this life to learn.” –Barbara Rose, PhD
“Every reality before your eyes was once imagined in the mind of one person. No matter who judges or knocks your dream, pay no attention to them. Instead, create what you imagine, and you will then be amazed at the Divine creative capacity you do have that will be well remembered for serving others.” — Barbara Rose, PhD
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” –Albert Einstein
“When you want to get married, ask the universe for a man who has every quality money cannot buy. Then go about to create your own prosperity.” -– Barbara Rose, PhD
“When my mother told me I should marry a millionaire, my immediate reply was, “Why would I want to marry a millionaire when I can become one myself!” — Barbara Rose, PhD
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50 Reasons to Leave Skid Marks (Just one is reason enough to run fast!)
1. Either of you is married and not completely available.
2. The other is an active alcoholic or drug user, using substances regularly to avoid feelings.
3. You see the first sign of physical or mental abuse: put downs, degrading comments, pushing, shoving, or hitting.
4. The other person says he does not want to be in a relationship.
5. You are not taken on dates and courted.
6. You are a “friend with benefits.”
7. You are called for last minute get-togethers and rarely go out on dates.
8. You’re not allowed to express your feelings and are labeled emotional.
9. There is no clear, genuine communication.
10. You feel as if you are walking on eggshells to accommodate the other person.
11. The other person rarely, if ever, lets you know he can be counted on.
12. After six months, you do not know the other person’s family or friends.
13. Your relationship is kept secret.
14. After having been physically intimate with you for weeks or months, the other person no longer allows sexual relations.
15. After expressing love for you, he takes back what he said.
16. You rarely go places or do things together.
17. You have vastly different views about life.
18. Your spiritual or religious preferences are not honored and respected.
19. The other person tries to change you.
20. After intimacy, you are treated like a stranger.
21. You are put down in front of other people.
22. You are stood up for a date or plans.
23. Plans are repeatedly broken and not reset for another time.
24. You are sexually abused.
25. He speaks badly behind the backs of other people he is “seeing.”
26. Just about every other woman in his life is “just a friend” (that he slept with previously).
27. You are referred to as “someone I know.”
28. There is no physical chemistry or passion in bed.
29. You cannot talk to him about anything.
30. If you have a misunderstanding, he ends your relationship rather than talking it out.
31. You never go on any sort of vacation or getaway with him.
32. You are not acknowledged on special occasions and holidays.
33. You are threatened in any manner.
34. Your relationship has all kinds of restrictions and boundaries that prevent intimacy.
35. After a few years you still do not share a life together or a genuine monogamous relationship.
36. He lets you know about the other people he is having sex with (to see if you get jealous).
37. He plays games with your feelings and tries to manipulate you.
38. He cuts off communication when you are trying to discuss something that bothers you.
39. He tells you to find someone else. (Do that!)
40. He can be intimate with you only if he is drunk or high.
41. The relationship is off balance and one-sided, to suit his needs, without reciprocation.
42. Your personal growth is not honored.
43. He tries to control your finances and tells you what you can and cannot spend.
44. You have a telephone or Internet relationship and rarely get together in person.
45. No effort is made to see you in person regularly.
46. He goes out without you and calls you when he gets home in the middle of the night, but he rarely takes you out.
47. He refuses to talk openly about where you stand with each other.
48. He breaks up or stops contact with you repeatedly, and refuses to communicate openly, honestly, and authentically.
49. He makes it clear to you that you are “just friends” after you have been intimate.
50. Weeks go by without hearing from him at all.
Take a good look at both of the lists. Which one describes your relationship? Do you see it written all over the pages? This list points to a string along relationship. The One has the first list.
You are The One.
Partial chapter excerpt © Copyright 2005, 2012 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved. from Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE. Published by The Rose Group (April, 2005) ISBN: 0974145742. An Amazon # 1 Relationship Bestseller.
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Look at what good can possibly come out of the situation. Look for what might very well be for each of your highest good. Replace “want” with “prefer”. You “prefer” to trust that there are higher reasons behind this situation and what you “want” might not be possible at this time.
50 Reasons to Leave Skid Marks (Just one is reason enough to run fast!) Continue reading
How to End Sabotaging Relationship Patterns and Melt the Walls
By Barbara Rose, PhD
Whether you are in a relationship that has just begun or one that began decades ago, if you are not satisfied with the behaviors you are shown, simply change your response to those behaviors, and a reaction will result.
Your partner’s reaction will have to change to reflect the changes in your attitudes, your guidelines and boundaries. All you can change is you. All you can control and manipulate< is your own choice.
You can react to what you are shown, or you can leave the source of discomfort in your life.
For as you change, as you grow, your reactions do as well. You break the cycle of dysfunction within a relationship when
you choose to respond in a new, more highly evolved fashion. When you love another, your communication of self-love is what allows the love to flow between you. Not a wall, not a game, not a punishment, not lashing out, not carrying on hysterically, but only love of self communicates what you see, feel, or observe to be beyond the boundary of what you will tolerate.
When you whine, beg, plead, cry, yell, scream, throw, hit, or lash out, your actions do not deserve the respect you ultimately are entitled to.
But when you openly and calmly share anything that displeases you, anything that causes you to feel unvalued or unappreciated, then you have genuine communication. Then you have friendship, understanding, respect for each other’s feelings, and the integrity to preserve the good you have found.
Build a new bridge of understanding over the turbulent waters of confusion and pain. Allow past hurts and pains to flow out of your system and out of the dynamic of your relationship by sharing truth honestly, deeply, and purely When you both do that, truth and understanding will replace chaos and pain.
Melting the walls that stand between you Much of the discord couples experience comes from fear of exposing their true feelings – their love, fears, doubts, insecurities – their true selves. So they hide their truth behind ego, pride, defense mechanisms, stories, lies, and games instead of communicating authentically.
When you do this, it robs you of your own solid foundation, your feelings of strong self-worth, self-respect, and high self-esteem. When you are too afraid to expose the real you, then you play the games that destroy a genuine healthy relationship or romantic friendship. But as you heal and realize there is nothing so terrible to hide, you then begin to feel more secure to share your truth. As you do this, you reinforce your self-worth and, at the same time, you reinforce the relationship’s foundation with truth.
When two people love, they have a common ground from which to build a new foundation based on trust, mutual respect, and mutual understanding. Yet, there must be compromise. One cannot yield all the time. Satisfaction of needs, wants, requests, and desires must be reciprocal.
Think about the word “relationship.” Relate your concerns and feelings on the ship of your making, so you may travel together on a sea of understanding.
If you begin a relationship with a pre-set agenda, you will find that you are not being your real self. You act the way you think the other wants you to act. You toss aside many of your goals, interests, dreams, and aspirations because you think that doing so will allow you to “get” this man or this woman. And in that process you steal the foundation of your truth, of your core, from your very self, and you prevent the other from knowing your inner beauty. Like so many people, you may try to be perfect at the beginning of a relationship.
You try to look your best, act your best, feel your best. But you leave out the most important ingredient: the real you, which is the best you.
Like so many people, you think that if you showed the real you, your potential partner would surely run, leaving skid marks on the way.
What is so wrong or terrible with the real you?
Perfection is not exciting. It is boring.
If you always try to be perfect, you create discomfort with the other person and actually prevent the growth of true friendship and intimacy.
Where are her moods? Doesn’t he ever get angry? Does she always look so perfect? Doesn’t he ever have a bad day? Why can’t she show me she gets mad? Doesn’t he have any real feelings? Is she always so intellectual? Does he really have a heart? Where is it? How can I show my real self if he or she doesn’t do it too?
You see, when you both present your real and genuine selves to each other, you lay a solid foundation from which
you can develop an honest and meaningful friendship or romance with one another.
You may know that many times people will test others to see what they will put up with, what they will tolerate. Testers want to find out how much they can get away with. They also want to know whether the testees have enough respect and regard for themselves to put the testers in their place if they cross the line.
Sometimes the one you date
wants to see that you have guts, that you are not a spineless wimp, that you do have self-respect, that you will only tolerate being treated with common decency and respect.
So, show it!
If others say something to you that strikes a chord within, and you don’t like the feelings you are getting as a result of their words or actions, you must speak up and say so. Now, You can say it gently and graciously, but make sure that it is said. By speaking up, you honor and preserve your self-esteem, your personal dignity.
Others then know how you feel as a result of what they did or said, and they know what you are requesting of them; it then becomes their choice as to whether they will honor your personal boundaries.
Each person is entitled to all of his or her own beliefs, opinions, preferences, joys, and individuality.
You do not own others; they are not your property. You share your time or your life together. As you learned in nursery school, sharing is giving; it is not taking, and it is not demanding that another does it all your way.
© Copyright 2001, 2003, 2011 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved. Excerpt re-printed with permission from the book Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth and Your Life. Published by The Rose Group (2003) ISBN: 097414570X.