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Podcast: How to Get Over Someone You Still Love


I’ve been there, too! During this audio seminar podcast I share exactly how to get over someone you still love who is no longer in your life.

This is a big issue for many people, it certainly used to be for me as well.

It is my honor to share this information with you as my New Year gift to you.

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It is my deepest hope that you receive many A-HA! moments of new clarity and that you have a fresh clean start, paving the way for a new wonderful love to come into your life.



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Exclusive Excerpt Get Over Him FAST

Ger Over Him FAST By Barbara Rose, PhD

Crucial Information

It is crucial for you to know that every tactic you
may try to kill the genuine love you feel—avoidance,
logic, pushing loving feelings down whenever they pop
up, sarcasm, —all of those tactics do not work.

Let’s go through this process while you’re feeling
the sadness and emotional pain, and learn how to
quickly transform it, because once you go through this
process, you will experience inner peace.

Perception, Misery, Drama and Pain

The cause of our emotional pain comes directly
from our perception and our attachment on the ego
level that erroneously causes us to believe that
the person we deeply love is the source of our inner joy and
happiness. As a result, when that person is no longer in
our lives, we feel and believe that our joy has been taken
away and will never come back.

Then our minds swiftly zoom back to the past. We
go into longing mode. We long for the past. We get
deeply into listening to old love songs, and feel really
comfortable with our misery. Heaven forbid anyone
dares to change the music to happy songs. We visit
old places we used to go to together. This is especially
helpful to sink us further into the Valley of Misery. We
commiserate with whichever friend will listen to our
saga, otherwise known as heartbreak and drama. Oh
how the ego just loves this place! Then we continue to
wish it could be the way it was in the beginning, when
it felt like heaven on earth.

We reminiscence about the past and either block
it out or cry it out. And we wonder why we’re feeling pain!
We have become so deeply invested in the past that we
forgot about the whole reason we are in this life! You
are here to bloom and experience your greatest self.

In order for that to happen, we will have to force ourselves
to change the music.

The Misery Alert

Do you remember being in school when an
announcement alerted all teachers and students that
there was a test for a fire drill? Yeah! We got to get out
of our classroom (read most boring place at age ten)
and go outside to feel the spring breeze and sunshine.
We were taught how to prepare for a fire. We learned
the most important thing in the world. We learned to
get out calmly and quickly.

When we are feeling complete and utter misery,
we must get out of the past and focus on right now,
this moment, while we simultaneously look ahead.

Top Ten Misery Checklist

I’m going to share a brief misery ending checklist
that you can refer back to whenever you need it.
You may want to bookmark this page.

When you start thinking about him and the past:

Every single time you think about the past and
your relationship, force yourself to focus on right now.

As soon as you realize you are heavily invested in
the past, take a few deep breaths and force yourself to

When you start to hear old love songs, change the station.

When you drive by any of the places you used to
go to together, drive in the opposite direction.

If you’re wearing his shirt to sleep, donate it to a
needy cause or throw the shirt in the trash.

If he left things in your home, unclaimed, put
them in a box and leave it on his front lawn. If the
things are not important, such as his tooth brush, toss
it into the trash.

If he really put you through the ringer, write a book
about it! Just imagine for every tear you shed, you will
receive royalties instead!

You could write a really deep, misery laden love
song like Alanis Morissette’s classic hit “You Oughta
Know” or an empowering song like the classic from
Gloria Gaynor, “I Will Survive.”

Remind yourself that there can be massive gifts in
disguise just waiting for you if you tap into your creativity!

Start to read stories about other women who were
once dumped and how they turned their lives around.

Excerpt re-printed with permission from the book Get OVER Him FAST © Copyright 2009 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved Published by The Rose Group (September, 2009) ISBN-10:0978895568 ISBN-13:978-0978895563.

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Tempted By Death Excerpt

Shocked by Divine communication, Barbara shares what resulted in an immediate reversal of suicide plan.

The plan that culminated in my own humiliating decision to end my life by “natural” means was shattered when I received direct shocking Divine communication letting me know exactly what would happen after the fact, and most importantly, gave me the information I am guided to share with you, to help you transform the illusion of death’s temptation in order to spare you from afterlife torture.

All information in this book is pure truth that can absolutely deter teen and adult suicide. This is for any person, from any culture, and every walk of life. It is written in a more scholarly manner to appeal to schools globally to catapult teen suicide awareness and prevention.

…We all need real, down to earth, genuine answers. We need them from someone who has been through this whole process. I bow my head saddened for all who are shocked reading these words. And at the same time, I raise my head and heart to make as much of a difference as possible… to awaken you to your “meltdown quotient”… By reading this book you are being given advance information that you do not have to experience in order to acquire it. Fortunately for you, I have been through the living hell of such a process and I am deeply grateful it is behind me.

I believe you will be deeply grateful as well for many reasons.

The most important truth is busting the illusion that “death” will release you from any emotional turmoil within your consciousness.

So let us begin this life giving journey by starting at the end – as I now share with you the information I was given that shocked me so, I immediately changed my mind, reversed my decision, and use the saying that was given to me within my mind to “Give Life a Chance.”

“You Will Not Go to Heaven”

I was driving my car fully waiting for a big storm to hit my area. I had decided I did not want to live another hour or day. And yet, I abhor violence. So I thought I was cleaver to reenact an incident I had been through when I was ten years old. Back then in 1972 I was walking home on a long road from the bus stop to my home after school. It was pouring rain and I was soaked. I became very ill with Scarlet Fever, going in and out of consciousness. I overheard my doctor tell my Mom outside my bedroom door that he was not sure I would make it.

I was petrified thinking I was going to die. But Dr. Flemming’s invention of penicillin saved my life. The only difference between just a few weeks before I wrote this book and 1972 is that this time I devised a plan to sit out in the pouring rain on a cold early February morning, throw away all ID, get sick, get Scarlet fever or any equivalent and simply die “by natural causes” from deliberately not seeking medical help.

Six Weeks Earlier – “Promise Me”

It was only six weeks earlier that the words of God flowed into my mind just as they do for every human being on earth. The words were; “Promise me you will not take your life“.

Being Prepared for Meltdown

As soon as those words flowed into my mind I knew it would have something to do with my immediate family.
Who or what makes no difference. Whether a parent or child pass on, move away is irrelevant.
The only thing that is relevant is to know your “Meltdown Quotient” (Read: “I can handle anything else but that“.)

Whatever “that” is, is different for each person and universal in emotional meltdown of some sort that precedes new knowledge, wisdom, realization and awakening that culminates in a new lease on life.

Making the Promise

With great respect for your personal beliefs as to the source of all knowing inner guidance, by whatever name you use shall suffice. Personally, I call this source God. I hesitated knowing a whopper was about to blast me and my life apart if I was being asked directly to “Promise me you do not take your life.”
It was heavy, but after debating for a few minutes I made the promise.


“It” happened. That most cherished, sacred part of my life, my immediate relative who shall forever remain anonymous was suddenly no longer “in” my life.
Bear in mind that during this time I was completely homeless. You would think a “bestselling author” of seventeen books could not possibly actually become homeless. But I did, and yet this was not my “Meltdown Quotient.” Yes I felt so ashamed, humiliated and degraded, but nowhere near the catastrophic emotional meltdown that blasted through my heart – leaving me with only one desire – death.

The Shocking Communication…

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About the Author

Barbara Sherry Rose, PhD is the bestselling author of twenty eight books, a world renowned life transformation specialist and spiritual teacher. Her personal growth and transformation shared with millions of people from every part of the world has endeared her to the masses as a pure, loving and caring soul who shares by living example. Her ability to take the most difficult personal topics and bring through the solutions for herself and all has made her one of today’s most loved and respected spiritual teachers. Dr. Rose is the founder of International Institute of Higher Self Communication merged with Global Life Transformation Institute. She shares with all of humanity the nondenominational process of receiving answers from God, as you personally understand that name to be. Her subscribers span over 190 countries and her work is widely sought after and published across the globe. You can view more of her work at her official website

Exclusive excerpt from the book Tempted By Death published by The Rose Group (November 11, 2011) ISBN-13: 978-0978895556 © Copyright 2011, 2012 Barbara Sherry Rose, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

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Dear God, How Do I Get Over a Former Lover I Still Love?

Book Description
When you still love a person who is no longer in your life, this book will show you how to resolve your feelings even when the connection you feel is still alive.

You will be guided through a divine and permanent process that shows you how to receive answers directly from God, answers that will allow you to transform longing and sadness into inner peace and joy.
Whether you feel sad from a recent break up or from one that occurred many years ago, if nothing has replaced the special connection you shared with that one person, this book will put it all into perspective for you. Whether you are male or female, young or in your later years, if the love you once shared feels as alive now as it did long ago, this book will explain it all and give you an astounding process that shows you exactly what to do about it so you can move forward with resolution, joy and pure inner peace. The time has come for you to learn how to get over your former lover even when you are still in love.

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Brief Author Bio:

Dr. Barbara Sherry Rose, most widely known as “Born To Inspire” was born in Bayside, New York. She attended Franklin College in Lugano, Switzerland, was an honor student at American University School of International Service in Washington, D.C., and was inducted into Kappa Tau Alpha National Honor Society for Journalism and Mass Communication. Dr. Rose is the bestselling author of twenty five books, a world renowned Life Transformation Specialist, and one of today’s most loved and respected spiritual teachers. As Founder of International Institute of Higher Self Communication she shares the nondenominational process of receiving answers from God, transforming the lives of millions across the globe. Her highly acclaimed work is widely sought after and published internationally with subscribers spanning over 190 countries. Her official website is BornToInspire.Com.

Book Details

* Paperback: 104 pages

* Publisher: Rose Group (October 10, 2006)

* Language: English

* ISBN-10: 0974145793

* ISBN-13: 978-0974145792

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Facing the Truth – Exclusive Excerpt Dear God How Do I Get Over a Former Lover I Still Love?

Dear God How Do I Get Over a Former Lover I Still Love?

By Barbara Rose, PhD

Why Truth Is So Empowering

The reason why your truth is so empowering is because it is a part of you. If you try to block it out, or avoid it, then you are disempowering yourself. When you disempower yourself, you send a strong negative message to your psyche that you are not even worthy enough to feel your own feelings.

How can you “get over” or transform something deep within if you do not allow it to surface? How can you learn to trust yourself if you won’t allow yourself to feel your truth?

Trust is built on truth. Trusting yourself means feeling all of your truth rather than what you may have been taught are “strong” or “weak” feelings. It is a lie to say that some feelings are strong, some weak, some good, and some bad. Every feeling is valid, every single one! When you tell yourself that one feeling is acceptable and another is unacceptable, what you are really telling yourself, even if completely on the unconscious level, is that parts of you are acceptable and parts are unacceptable.

This is what must be transformed first. How you view your feelings is the foundation of how you view yourself and the foundation of learning how to trust yourself.


When you trust yourself, you feel free to be who you really are. You will drop every wall, façade, ego game, self-denial, self-blame, hatred, and the false views that anything or any condition outside of you constitutes your worth.

You may wonder what this has to do with the subject of this book. So I will share the answer with you now.

How can you possibly be with someone you either have loved, love now, or will love if you cannot honor your inherent truth? You cannot! This is why the pain persists! It is because there is still a part of you that has a fear or false belief that your ego has led you to believe does not deserve to be fully honored and accepted.

Once you honor and accept whatever you have deemed to be unacceptable in terms of your truest feelings, you will be able to really let your guard down. Then you can follow what your deepest feelings and instincts are telling you in the moment.

This cannot be planned. You cannot plan how you are going to feel in a future moment. What you can do, however, is allow yourself to get into the habit of feeling whatever it is you feel, and then ask yourself what your feelings are trying to tell you. Moreover, the greatest thing you can do when you are experiencing unpleasant feelings is to do a writing about them: ask God what your feelings are trying to tell you, what you may need to learn, and how you can grow by receiving the higher perspective about your feelings. This process is entirely self-empowering, and it leads to positive and pure personal transformation.


Of course, like me, you can look back and see all of the mistakes you made because you were too afraid of being hurt. For example, I remember when I felt too scared to openly express feelings of anger in an honest and diplomatic manner. I was afraid of being rejected and having anger lashed at me. Instead of just coming out and saying what was bothering me, I used the silent treatment–not answering my phone or talking for two weeks. Looking back on it, I know that it was unhealthy, childish, and the exact opposite of how I would handle feeling and expressing anything today. I wasn’t relating; I was avoiding because I was too scared to relate. I was petrified of appearing “needy” when what I needed most was to know, honor, and express my truth. Since that time, I learned about healthy communication from my writings. I learned how to express myself honestly in the moment, which is much healthier for me and for any relationship. We can learn from hindsight. But it is imperative that you begin to focus on this now moment when you are consciously feeling something: simply get quiet within, and ask yourself what your feelings are trying to tell you.

It is vital that you stop labeling your feelings as good or bad, weak or strong. These labels are all ego, and I am positive that the layers of ego you want to shed, which will enable you to come fully into your authentic self, can only be shed when you consider all feelings as valid.

Here’s a good rule of thumb to keep in your mind when your head tells you that one feeling is “better” than another. View each feeling in terms of temperature, without judgment. If it’s thirty-two degrees and you feel cold, this is valid. After all, thirty-two degrees is the freezing point. If it’s thirty-two degrees and you feel warm, that would still be valid; you might have a fever. So all feelings are equally valid.

At this point, you might be wondering something like this: When is she going to tell me how to get over the one I love?

So here is your answer. What you truly want to get over is your pain. It is perfectly fine to love someone for the rest of your life. Trying to get over love is like trying to stop the sun from shining. I would venture to say that is not going to happen any time soon.

What your heart needs to understand, with emotional neutrality, is that “getting over love” is like getting over truth. Do you really want to get over your truth, or would you rather learn how to live with it in the healthiest and most honest way possible?

Remember: it is not the love that you are trying to get over. It is emotional pain. Did you ever consider what you can create by using this phenomenal love as a positive catalyst in your life?

When a connection is so deep, honor it. Are you creative? Let this deep love trigger a creation: a book, a new line of greeting cards, a class or course, a means of helping others, or even an unfolding process of freeing yourself from resisting and fighting all you feel.

This is what is empowering and positive. The love is there for a higher reason. Express something from it. Create whatever means something to you in your heart. Stop running away from love, because you’ll be running for eternity.

It is time to learn how to live with the love.

© Copyright 2006, 2013 Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved. Excerpt from Dear God, How Do I Get Over a Former Lover I Still Love? Re-printed with permission from The Rose Group, October 2006) ISBN-10: 0974145793.


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