How to Attract the Best Relationship

You have to be your own anchor in a relationship. You must be there for yourself no matter what happens.

You can only attract the person of your dreams when you know precisely what your standards are.

Being desperate is not an admirable quality. It is weak and is prime bait for an abuser.

When someone knows you truly have a zero tolerance for abuse, you can much more easily attract a partner who also would never even consider being abusive. This is completely possible. My husband is this way because I was equally so strict with what I would desire and what I would never tolerate.

When you are crystal clear on the type of person you would consider sharing your life with you must be that same person on the inside. Do you want a partner who is desperate and cannot live without a relationship? No, good, I didn’t think so.

How do you turn a lifetime of low self esteem around?

First you must know the qualities that are in need of transformation and then you must be willing to use all of your inner resolve to be true to the real you that you are now becoming.

© Copyright 2012 Barbara Sherry Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved.

Pippa Chronicle

With hyped woes swirling around the media rendering Pippa Middleton as fearful of being undateable, Dr. Barbara Sherry Rose shares a different, inspiring perspective for Pippa via the following Q & A.

Q. Is Pippa Truly Undateable?

A. Absolutely not. Pippa has been thrust into the position of being one of the most dignified eligible bachelorettes in the world, just as her loved sister Kate Middleton was not so long ago.

Q. Why are guys scared off?

A. Many guys simply don’t fit the bill of being the uncle of the soon-to-be King of England’s children. There are national and international security concerns, daily media coverage, and the man who lands Pippa will have to be the highest caliber person of impeccable integrity.

Q. What about Pippa’s role?

A. Just like the female version of the husband she will attract, Pippa will fare well with the following guidelines:

* Pippa must be a lady at all times.

* She will feel far less nervous and fearful when she focuses her attention on her life purpose instead of on a potential husband.

* Pippa must make a list of every quality money cannot buy that she would want in a man with whom she will share her life.

* Then she needs to be the mirror image of those qualities such as being a person of the highest caliber with impeccable integrity, completely honest, humanitarian, and compassionate towards the downtrodden. In addition, she will fare well attending the events that are close to her heart rather than simply celebrity inspired.

Once Pippa knows her own value and realizes that her influence can potentially reach humanity on a global scale, she will place much more importance and emphasis on living from the heart – from the people and for the people.

Q. What is the best way Pippa can attract a husband?

A. The same way all of us do: Know who you are, exactly what you want in a partner, have crystal clear boundaries and guidelines on what you will and will not tolerate, then get super focused on your own life. We tend to meet our partners “when we least expect it.”

Q. Any advice on the type of men Pippa should avoid?

A. Definitely. Pippa is urged to steer clear of men who want prestige, flash and and put themselves in the media’s eye to obtain it.

Q. You mentioned, “Every quality money cannot buy.” How does this play out?

A. I was single for a long time and had to transform a lifetime of issues such as being a people pleaser and earth’s biggest String Along doormat, to become a person I could feel proud of for living to make a positive difference in our world.

I had a list of the most admirable qualities within my heart and mind, and I knew, without any doubt that the first abusive word or gesture would be the last time a man would see me. Zero tolerance for abuse means ZERO, (read not one time with a warning.) I attracted my beloved husband when I was honestly not looking for one. I was super focused on making a positive difference and I trusted that Mr. Perfect for Me would naturally pop into my life. And so he did.

It is this same way for Pippa. Chances are great that she will be most suited for a man who also has great influence, even behind the scenes, someone who values privacy instead of seeking to be on a jet set, playboy, celebrity photo shoot.   Pippa will do far better with a family man, someone who mirrors her own qualities, outlook on life and values about raising children.

I can only promise you that when you are crystal clear within yourself about whom the person is from the inside out, you will naturally attract the best man. May the very best man win Pippa. She deserves only the best.

© Copyright 2012 Barbara Sherry Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved.

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