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If God Hears Me, I Want an Answer!
By Barbara Rose, PhD

When God Answers

It is important at this time that you know where I’m coming from, and that you know I am a regular human being just like you. So I am going to share with you how this all happened. How I learned about the process of getting answers from God, and the doubts, fears, and insecurities I went through. Everyone I have taught this process to went through the same thing.

How It Began

In 1994, I had a session with a highly spiritually evolved man named Bill Burns. He told me that I had the ability to bring through information from my Higher Self. I asked, “What’s a Higher Self?” He said, “Your Higher Self is the one you call God.” I literally laughed in his face and said, “Are you kidding me? Why would God want to talk to me? I’m not Mother Teresa or the Dalai Lama. Why would God want to speak to me?” He said, “You can’t understand or relate to this now. It’s not like you’re going to be some Madam Zelda with a scarf on your head and a crystal ball, but you will see that you will bring through information from God in your writings and in speech to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity.”

I looked at him as if he was from Pluto. Although I had deep respect for him, and do to this day, I didn’t understand what he was talking about, and I certainly did not believe that I could receive direct answers from God.

But I was curious. So I went home and did a writing: I asked God questions in writing and wrote down the answers I received as the words flowed into my mind. Even though I received answers that all turned out to be true, I dismissed the whole thing. I thought I was probably making it all up.

Then, life happened. Hardships happened. Injustice happened. A relationship happened, and I fell in love.

Now, if anything is going to get a person to really start asking God for answers, it is when he or she is in deep turmoil. I was writing letters to God every single day; many times, two, three, four, and even five times a day. I didn’t understand why the events in my life were happening. I didn’t know what to do or how to figure everything out, and I wanted answers!

I received tens of thousands of pages of answers. The only problem was my ego. I did not believe the answers were really coming from God. I kept thinking I was making it all up. Then I began to receive predictions. They were all on the personal level. Exact dates and times by which things would happen, all in advance. This happened for two solid years. During that time I seriously thought I had gone mad. I used to walk around the house and say to myself, “I must be insane. I’m probably just a harmless psychopath.” I really thought I was going crazy. I didn’t believe that the one God, creator of Heaven and Earth, would actually communicate directly with me.

So then in my writings I would ask for another prediction. It came true. Then another, and another. At one point, the words that flowed into my mind from God were, “Barbara, when will you finally believe? How many predictions do you need to come to pass?” And I would write, “Dear God, please just give me one more, and then I will believe.” So I received yet another one. But I still didn’t believe. This went on for two solid years. I was a tough nut to crack. Then I would write, “Dear God, what is going to happen this week?” I received another prediction. Once again, God brought the words into my mind that I wrote down verbatim. The words were, “When will you believe?” So I once again wrote, “Okay God, just one more prediction and then I will believe.” This was after receiving hundreds of them. So I received another prediction with the exact date and the latest time by which the event would occur on that date. For example, I was in a long, deep, and emotionally difficult relationship with a man I dearly loved and still do. He broke up with me, for about the twentieth time, and said that it was “over forever.” I really believed him because he sounded dead serious. I had even reached the point that I thought I had wanted it to be over forever. Then I wrote to God and asked, “Dear God, is the relationship really over? Please tell me it’s over, I can’t take it anymore. If it is, I can handle it. Please tell me the truth.” The answer I received was, “No, it is not over. He will call you to see you on Wednesday by 6:00 p.m.” After two solid years of predictions, when that one came to pass (I received a call from him on Wednesday at 5:30 p.m. saying that he wanted to see me), my ego gave way as if a dam had burst open. I finally believed I was not making it all up.

Logically, I had to conclude that there was no way on this earth that I could come up with advance information documented for two solid years and be correct each and every time.

So I believed. But I had tremendous fear about what other people would think of me. I feared being viewed as some kind of New Age fruitcake. I feared how I would be viewed by society.

It was through my writings, and all of the information I received from God in my writings, that I was able to completely transform my entire life.

I had lost everything. There was a time I didn’t have a home, a car, or money for food, and my life was at the bottom of the barrel. My self-esteem and self-confidence were also at the bottom of the barrel.

God guided me in writing after writing about self-love, self-value, how to transform my life, what to do next, what to create, what to share, and what to write in books for humanity. God’s words flow into my mind, and I write them down verbatim. The process feels exactly like taking dictation. The only difference is that rather than hearing the words spoken out loud by someone, the words come into my mind silently, so it is like taking internal dictation. What I mean by “internal” is that I hear the words within my mind, exactly as you might hear God’s still small voice within your mind saying something such as “take this road home today instead of the one you usually take.”

The process of personal transformation was given to me by God through my writings, and I can guarantee that if there is any area or aspect of your life in which you would like to see, feel, and experience positive transformation, God will give you every answer in your own writings exactly as He or She does for me and for the countless other people I have taught this to who also receive direct answers from God every day of their lives.

It is also important for you to know that no matter what is upsetting you or what you may feel unsure about–even if you are not sure about the perfect words to say in reply to an e-mail–if it is important to you in your heart, you can ask God in writing for the perfect words to write, and then simply write down the answers as the words flow into your mind.

This is the beauty of the process. You can receive answers for anything that matters to you in your everyday life. You do not have to wait for an emergency. Here’s a good rule of thumb: if you’re not sure about something, ask God! There is one exception, however, and that is asking for predictions about future outcomes.

Chapter excerpt © Copyright 2006 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved, from If God Hears Me, I Want an Answer! Published by The Rose Group (September 2006) ISBN: 0974145750.

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Revealing Wisdom on the Other Side of Knowledge


By Barbara Rose, PhD

There may have been times when you sought to understand an event or situation in your life as you were trying to figure it all out, to no avail.

Perhaps being intellectual, as you are, you tried to view the perplexing situation from any angle you could think of. And yet, there may have been times when you were still left in a quandary- still unsure, still asking questions about the matter at hand.

This area of the intellect can actually receive answers from the Higher Consciousness within your mind, which transcends your logical intellect with the limited perspective that left you still searching for answers.

The purpose of this excerpt is to teach you how to access your own Higher Consciousness so that you can receive answers to any situation your intellect is having trouble figuring out. This is a process that is your birthright; it is your Higher Self Communication.

What This Means

The term Higher Self Communication simply refers to that part of your mind that has the ability to consciously receive answers that are beyond your own current intellectual knowledge. The answers might pertain to your love life, research, or trying to understand how to relate to a loved one, such as your teenager or parent or spouse.

There is an explanation that I believe will hit home with you and make sense out of this process. It is this: “The mind cannot transform its limited perspective at the same level of consciousness that is viewing a situation while questions, uncertainty, and lack of clarity and understanding prevail.”

After all, if we were able to transform our conscious views of a situation at the same level of conscious awareness that we currently have, all internal emotional pain, lack of understanding regarding any situation, as well as a complete positive paradigm shift, would occur instantaneously.

Your Paradigm Shifts

I would like to share an example from my own life so that you can understand in down-to-earth terms what this is all about. Following my example, I will share with you exactly how to access your own higher consciousness so that you, too, can engage in life-transforming paradigm shifts within minutes.

A Personal Example

Many years ago, when my children were very young, I went through unwarranted child custody litigation. That situation did not turn out the way I would have preferred, and I viewed it from my own limited perspective-as if “I lost my children.” I was given visitation rights; however, my ego and intellect could only perceive what I used to call “a deep and tragic loss.”

I was experiencing the deepest emotional despair because of how I was viewing the situation. I did not consciously realize that there was an alternate perspective that would transform suicidal sorrow into complete understanding within a few minutes.

In my deepest heart I wanted to understand why I “lost my children” (as that was how I viewed the situation at the time). And after all, it is natural for us to want to understand why when a situation is something other than what we would prefer it to be.

I wrote down on a piece of paper the words, “Dear God, why did you let me lose my children?” I immediately received words in the form of an answer that flowed into my mind. I wrote those words down verbatim: “You did not “lose” your children. You are merely sharing the physical care of them with their father. They are alive; they will always be in your life, and you will always be close to them. Please shift your view from loss to sharing.

Instantaneous Transformation

When I re-read the words that I had written down, my paradigm-my view of the situation-shifted completely. My perception was instantaneously transformed. As a result, I honestly went from wanting to die to having a new lease on life. The simple answers that I received completely transformed my consciousness, which then was the catalyst for my having the desire to re-build and transform my life from the bottom up.

No Special Ability Required

As a regular human being with a deep love of the intellectual process, I was awestruck at how I could receive such a clear new perspective. I was excited. At the same time, in my eternal search for truth beneath the surface of things in life, I wanted to know how this was possible.

The Desire for Answers

Having received the answer that brought me a complete paradigm shift, I found I wanted more answers. I wanted to understand the dynamics of a deep and emotionally difficult relationship. I wanted to understand how a regular human being could receive answers about any situation that the personality and ego-intellect could not come up with on its own.

I began to write down questions I had that mattered deeply to me in my heart. I had a lot of questions, and I truly needed answers. Answers would bring me clarity, insight, and the kind of new perspective that would transform emotional grief and intellectual confusion into emotional peace and intellectual understanding.

© Copyright 2010 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved.

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“Barbara Rose is one of the best spiritual teachers I’ve ever heard in person or read in books.” — Gary Renard, best-selling author of The Disappearance of the Universe

“I was deeply moved when I read Barbara Rose’s beautiful and compassionate book. Her love and wisdom infuse every page.” — Stephen Simon, Film Director/Producer (Conversations with God, Somewhere in Time, What Dreams May Come) Co-founder

“This book is a must read for deepening your spiritual awareness regardless of where you are in your journey.” — Bob Gottfried, PhD, author of Shortcut to Spirituality: Mastering the Art of Inner Peace

Barbara Rose has tapped into profound truth, a direct expression of God with simplicity and eloquence. I recommend her book. — Barbara Marx Hubbard, President, Foundation for Conscious Evolution

Book Description:

This book solves the mystery of how to receive answers when you really want them. You learn not only that you are heard but that you are answered, and you will be able to receive all of the answers you need in order to propel your life forward in the most positive way.

After bringing through tens of thousands of pages and millions of answers to people worldwide, Barbara Rose, PhD, shares in this book exactly how she receives the answers and teaches you how to do the same.

During the period in her own life when she lost everything, she wanted answers. From the depths of despair and facing many critical life-changing decisions, she turned to God and received perfect clarity and the highest guidance that led to both her highest good and the highest good of many others.

If you wonder if God hears you, and if you have ever wondered how to receive direct answers, this book will show you how—in plain English.

Publisher: Rose Group (August 1, 2006)

ISBN-10: 0974145750

ISBN-13: 978-097414575


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How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Hurtful Relationships


By Barbara Rose, PhD

Now we are going to establish your inner truth and backbone-so you will actually feel a solid sense of self based on your truth.

From this moment on, whenever you notice any form of abusive behavior, I ask you to set a clear, definitive, and healthy boundary around yourself. Setting that boundary will allow you to move away from the source of abuse and to never allow abuse into your life again.

The Scariest Part

The scariest part of growth is like a dark cloud. Do you remember when I said that personal transformation is not easy? I said that because it is quite easy to read a book, listen to tapes, hear all kinds of wonderful people speak, and keep it all in your head but not integrate it into observable action. When I asked you to remove yourself completely from any person who is the source of any abuse, I bet you felt fear. This is natural. It does feel scary, and it is not easy to walk your talk. But you bought this book so that you could engage in personal transformation, not so that you could simply read paragraphs of airy-fairy affirmations and tidbits of useless inspiration.

When you feel something negative deep inside, this feeling is your dearest and best friend. This feeling is letting you know that such-and-such is not okay. Once you notice how you feel, it is up to you and you alone to become your own best friend and move away from whatever or whomever is causing you pain through verbal, mental, emotional, or physical abuse.

The fear is like a big dark cloud in the sky. It may look and feel terrifying; I know because I have been there too. But once you take your first step away from the source of abuse and into your truth, personal alchemy and authentic empowerment begin to take the place of fear. All of a sudden, as a result of your positive actions, you notice rays of sunlight peeking through the dark cloud. You realize that you will be okay; in fact, you will be better than you ever were before.

Now, on the next couple of pages, I want you to pretend that you are fearless. I want you to write down-as if you had no fear at all-what you would do to take personal responsibility to transform yourself and your life by moving completely away from any past or present abuse.

Please write this list. You are almost there!

I am fearless. This is what I would do if I weren’t afraid to move myself out of misery and pain:

From Thought to Action

Now please re-read the list you just wrote. Great! Now I want you to hold in your mind a picture of this new and empowered you. This is the real you beneath the fear!

This is the you that your heart and soul have been calling out to for so long, via pain, to get you to notice so that you would transform yourself.

If you are feeling petrified of moving into your truth, it would be wise to seek professional therapy or spiritual counseling from someone who specializes in authentic empowerment and personal transformation as well as abuse.

It is not only good, it is vital to have a trusted support system when you are undergoing crucial personal transformation.

If you begin the process on your own but then feel stuck, having a support system to turn to only makes you a stronger person. If you feel you can take the last steps you wrote without any professional support whatsoever, then this is fine, too. Do it whichever way you can while bringing no harm to yourself or anyone else.

This is your lifetime, your time for creating personal transformation that is meaningful, true, and lasting.

This is your time to notice all you have put up with and dare yourself to become so much stronger, your time to watch yourself transform and reach the other side of the challenges facing you-because that, Dear One, is why they are there.

The challenges are in front of you so that you can summon your inner truth and courage, and moment by moment, either with or without professional help, face those challenges and overcome them at this time.

You wouldn’t be reading this page at this time if it was not the time to begin the process you have spent eons trying to begin, the process of transforming and coming into wholeness.

Now the process is in front of you. You wrote down exactly what you would do if you had no fear. I can guarantee you that as you move through your actions into your full truth, you are going to feel and be transformed.

Please remember that all of us who undergo personal transformation cry and feel terrified inside as we face our truth. I certainly did. But if I could do it, you can do it, too. You can follow the process by using this book and your lists as tools for personal growth, spiritual growth, and inner transformation. In the process, through self-love and truth and the strength to carry out your actions, you will see a remarkable difference in your life now and for the rest of your life.

You have a friend in me, and I honor you for coming into your truth and discovering the real strength you have beneath the fears, strength that will see you to the other side of this situation, as you transform yourself into wholeness, radiance, and supreme confidence.

Chapter excerpt © Copyright by Barbara Sherry Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved from the book Know Yourself: A Woman’s Guide to Wholeness, Radiance & Supreme Confidence Published by The Rose Group (January 2005) ISBN: 0974145742

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50 Reasons to Leave Skid Marks in a Relationship

stop being the string along50 Reasons to Leave Skid Marks in a Relationship: Excerpt from Stop Being the String Along
By Barbara Rose, PhD

50 Reasons to Leave Skid Marks (Just one is reason enough to run fast!)

1. Either of you is married and not completely available.

2. The other is an active alcoholic or drug user, using substances regularly to avoid feelings.

3. You see the first sign of physical or mental abuse: put downs, degrading comments, pushing, shoving, or hitting.

4. The other person says he does not want to be in a relationship.

5. You are not taken on dates and courted.

6. You are a “friend with benefits.”

7. You are called for last minute get-togethers and rarely go out on dates.

8. You’re not allowed to express your feelings and are labeled emotional.

9. There is no clear, genuine communication.

10. You feel as if you are walking on eggshells to accommodate the other person.

11. The other person rarely, if ever, lets you know he can be counted on.

12. After six months, you do not know the other person’s family or friends.

13. Your relationship is kept secret.

14. After having been physically intimate with you for weeks or months, the other person no longer allows sexual relations.

15. After expressing love for you, he takes back what he said.

16. You rarely go places or do things together.

17. You have vastly different views about life.

18. Your spiritual or religious preferences are not honored and respected.

19. The other person tries to change you.

20. After intimacy, you are treated like a stranger.

21. You are put down in front of other people.

22. You are stood up for a date or plans.

23. Plans are repeatedly broken and not reset for another time.

24. You are sexually abused.

25. He speaks badly behind the backs of other people he is “seeing.”

26. Just about every other woman in his life is “just a friend” (that he slept with previously).

27. You are referred to as “someone I know.”

28. There is no physical chemistry or passion in bed.

29. You cannot talk to him about anything.

30. If you have a misunderstanding, he ends your relationship rather than talking it out.

31. You never go on any sort of vacation or getaway with him.

32. You are not acknowledged on special occasions and holidays.

33. You are threatened in any manner.

34. Your relationship has all kinds of restrictions and boundaries that prevent intimacy.

35. After a few years you still do not share a life together or a genuine monogamous relationship.

36. He lets you know about the other people he is having sex with (to see if you get jealous).

37. He plays games with your feelings and tries to manipulate you.

38. He cuts off communication when you are trying to discuss something that bothers you.

39. He tells you to find someone else. (Do that!)

40. He can be intimate with you only if he is drunk or high.

41. The relationship is off balance and one-sided, to suit his needs, without reciprocation.

42. Your personal growth is not honored.

43. He tries to control your finances and tells you what you can and cannot spend.

44. You have a telephone or Internet relationship and rarely get together in person.

45. No effort is made to see you in person regularly.

46. He goes out without you and calls you when he gets home in the middle of the night, but he rarely takes you out.

47. He refuses to talk openly about where you stand with each other.

48. He breaks up or stops contact with you repeatedly, and refuses to communicate openly, honestly, and authentically.

49. He makes it clear to you that you are “just friends” after you have been intimate.

50. Weeks go by without hearing from him at all.

Take a good look at both of the lists. Which one describes your relationship? Do you see it written all over the pages? This list points to a string along relationship. The One has the first list.

You are The One.Stop Being the String Along

Partial chapter excerpt © Copyright 2010 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved from Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE. Published by The Rose Group (April, 2005) ISBN: 0974145742. An Amazon # 1 Relationship Bestseller.

Barbara Sherry Rose, PhD is the bestselling author of twenty two books, a world renowned life transformation specialist, spiritual teacher and expert in Higher Self Communication. Her personal growth and transformation shared with millions of people from every part of the world has endeared her to the masses as a pure, loving and caring soul who shares by living example. Her ability to take the most difficult personal topics and bring through the solutions for herself and all has made her one of today’s most loved and respected spiritual teachers. Dr. Rose is the founder of International Institute of Higher Self Communication, HEADLINE Times – The First in Transformational Journalism. She shares with all of humanity the nondenominational process of receiving answers from God, as you personally understand that name to be. Her subscribers span 190 countries and her work spans the world. Visit her website .

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Rising in Life When You Feel Like a Failure

Individual Power
I remember when life knocked me down to my knees and I lost everything. I felt like a complete failure. What I learned was that by making a decision to rise above any and all circumstances, backed with the strongest inner vision of true heartfelt purpose, one day at a time, one moment at a time, I was able to transform my entire life.

Here below is a brief excerpt from the book Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth and Your Life that I feel will help to inspire you with overcoming adversity, no matter how adverse your circumstances are.

Most, if not all, successful people have had to go through the process of finding their truth and sticking to it no matter what others said and no matter how many experiences were deemed as failures.

No experience is a failure.

You are not a failure simply because you have yet to achieve all you desire.

Experience is a teacher.

You and I have simply learned from our experiences.

The fateful twists of life amid our tragedies are what bring us our greatest strength and wisdom. You cannot ever judge your self as a failure simply because you have not yet succeeded.

Perhaps you are preparing for your success by way of varied life experiences.

To succeed, see the ideal life you long for as complete.

Know that because you deserve all of your joys to be made manifest, they shall be.

With resolve, understanding, and decisiveness, you can create the life you want and deserve, and you will stop buying into the belief that you are “less than” any other, no matter how much he or she may possess.

Compare yourself to no other, but gain inspiration from the few who have shared their pain and have overcome their darkest hour to shine again as the children they once were.

The only difference between them and you is an inner resolve, a decision backed with sheer will, vision, determination, and consistency.

That is the only difference.

© Copyright by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved. Excerpt from the book Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth and Your Life (The Rose Group April 2003) ISBN: 097414570X

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Transforming the Unknown

Transforming the Unknown: How to Transform What’s Holding You Back in Life When You Don’t Know What It Is

By Barbara Rose, PhD

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If you have reached a point in your life when you realize that you are unhappy, unfulfilled, weary, and feel more emptiness than joy, you have reached a crucial point: that of realization.

When you look at your life and you can find all you do not like about it, this is the realization that can lead to change.

Perhaps there are aspects of your life that you do like, even if the rest of your reality feels stuck and unfulfilled.

The purpose of this book is to bring you insight regarding exactly how you can transform anything in your life that has been holding you back from blooming, even if you don’t know what it is.

This process isn’t very complicated, but it is easier said than done. For example, you might look at a relationship you are in and feel sad, disappointed or abused—just as I once did. You may know your sadness; but knowing how to transform it requires higher guidance. This is the guidance that comes from the highest aspect of your consciousness, rather than the fear- laden ego aspect that lives at the level of your personality.

It is one thing to realize that you feel unfulfilled. It is quite another thing to be willing to do whatever it takes with dignity, honesty, ethics and truth so that your realizations can become transformations.

Pain Threshold

I used to be one deeply unhappy person. And I have met thousands of people from all over the world who are also deeply unhappy.

The key here is to ask yourself how much longer you are willing to be unhappy—how much longer you are willing to keep the status quo.

This is the first part of transforming what’s holding you back in life. You are being given a choice that only you can make.

Whatever the misery, whatever the unhappiness is about—relationships, work, finances, self confidence—no matter what you are facing, how much longer do you want things to remain the same?

Crucial Threshold

First, it is crucial that you actually admit to yourself any aspect of your life you feel unhappy about. Then it is crucial for you to ask yourself when you want to have things change. Changing your unhappiness to happiness will mean changing what makes you unhappy: the circumstances, views, perceptions and daily living that perpetuate your misery.

I once had a client who was unhappy about a certain aspect of her life. It required courage for her to move in a new direction so she could feel joy instead of pain. I remember the words that literally flowed through me to her: “Okay how much longer would you like things to stay the way they are, because we’ve got plenty of time. Do you want things to change in ten minutes? Ten hours? Five months? Or Four years? She started to laugh as she realized that the decision to turn things around could only be made by her.

The same is true for me and you. Only you can decide when you have had enough of the old way and when you have reached a critical threshold—a turning point within your mind and heart that summons up the courage to actually turn things around.


It is okay, and it is even quite normal, to know what you are unhappy about while, at the same time, you may not have a clue as to how to turn things around.

At this point what is crucial for you is to decide when. Not how. Just when.

So if you are one of the millions of people who are unhappy with how you are spending your life, feeling dull, lacking passion and inspiration about your life, when do you want to change this?

The answer you give is going to determine whether or not any aspect of your life actually transforms.

I know many people who are deeply unhappy in their marriages. And as unhappy as they are, they have no intention whatsoever of doing anything about it—such as leaving the relationship. They are people who are choosing out of fear to keep the status quo, and they will not experience a change because they don’t want to.

You have to desire to turn your life around before your desire turns into change. And the step between desire and change is action.

It does not matter that you don’t know how to do it, the only thing that matters is your deep willingness to create change. Again, this is a choice only you can make. No one can live your life for you, and no one can fix your life but you.


It is your individual responsibility to start right where you are and to decide, in the deepest part of your heart, how you would prefer things to be. Whatever you would like to turn around has to have real deep meaning to you. This is actually called care. You have to care more about creating change than you do about keeping things the same.

The level of growth and transformation you experience will be in direct proportion to the measure of desire and willingness you have within you to make great headway in a new direction.

Outright Misery

To make this process simpler, let’s suppose that you are completely dissatisfied with your whole life in every area. This means that you experience outright misery every day. You feel drained, and don’t know how to get more energy to transform this exhaustion.


For many people—and you may very well be one of them—just the thought of transforming life feels exhausting.

I used to feel this way. I remember sharing in my first book, Individual Power, that when I embarked on the process of changing my life, I felt as if I was standing at the bottom of Mt. Everest, looking up, and saying, “No way! I can’t do this.” But that “can’t” was not true. I just needed the gumption, the energy, to start. And each hour of each day would provide me with all of the aspects of my life that I felt unhappy about. Perhaps you, too, feel this way every hour of your day; maybe even every minute.

In the next chapter I am going to share with you how to transform anything in your life—even if you do not have a clue about what needs transforming, when, and in what priority.

There are many examples shared throughout this book; I’m guessing that you will be able to relate personally to at least some of them. The key now is to ask yourself if you are ready to learn how to transform what feels un-transformable.

Excerpt © Copyright 2009 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved, Exclusive Book Excerpt re=published with permission from the book Transforming the Unknown: How to Transform What’s Holding You Back in Life When You Don’t Know What It Is Published by The Rose Group (October 2009) ISBN-13: 978-0978895549

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Barbara Rose, PhD is the bestselling author of eighteen books, one of today’s most loved and respected spiritual teachers, and a world renowned Life Transformation Specialist. She is a pioneering force in incorporating Higher Self Communication, the nondenominational study and integration of humanity’s God Nature into modern personal growth and spiritual evolution. Dr. Rose is known for providing life changing answers, quick practical coaching and deep spiritual wisdom to people worldwide. She is the Founder of International Institute of Higher Self Communication where her highly acclaimed spiritual work is widely sought after and published internationally transforming the lives of millions across the globe. Dr. Rose works in cooperation with some of the greatest spiritual leaders of our time to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity. Her official website is