By Barbara Rose, PhD
- You can never stop real love between a child and parent the adult child always feels deep within, even if it is masked.
- The adult child will not completely mourn the passing of alienating parents, he or she and I will always mourn the loss of the parent I was denied my birthright to love and be close to.
- All lies will eventually come to the surface and the absolute truth is what will take center stage within the mind of the adult child of parental alienation syndrome.
- Who will ultimately be alienated within the heart and mind of the adult child? The lying alienating parent.
- Control and brainwashing as well as all fear will be illuminated, broken, and vanished when the alienating parents pass away.
- If you are going to alienate your child of any age against the other parent the child loves, I can assure you that your battle will be temporarily won, and then completely lost in the end.
- Parental alienation is cruel child abuse, regardless of the age of the child. Be it five or twenty-five, when the child has a deep loving bond with their parent that thy are not allowed to express or even feel love for, ultimately the child will reunite with the parent they always loved, even if it is after physical passing. The love will remain eternal, and the lies will become like dirt that flows into the sewer street on a rainy day.
- Forced separation, manipulation, deceit and heartless uncaring is what the alienating parent will mostly be remembered for after physical passing.
- The very best thing you can do as a real loving parent is to foster, allow and encourage closeness, love, caring and respect between your child and the other parent, no matter how much you may not want to. Trust me, if you truly want to be loved, allow your child to love as they want to with your approval!
- It is never too late for you to turn things around for your adult child! You can humble yourself and swallow your pride to say how you were wrong for saying bad things about the other parent. It was selfish and mean. Say, “I encourage you to love your (alienated) Mom or Dad because this is the right thing to do!”
- Let your adult child know that you said things you never should have and you are very sorry. Say that you realize you were wrong and now you know and understand better than you did before.
© Copyright 2017 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved. Excerpt from Being an Adult Child of Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Guide for Parents re-printed with permission, published by The Rose Group (June 1, 2017)