By Barbara Sherry Rose, PhD
1. Why should I not compete with others?
The very concept of “competition” is fear based. Somehow you are telling yourself that you have to “beat” the competition, or “take” a certain share of the marketplace, or “win over” a certain person. In reality, there is no other exactly like you, and there is no other person that can contribute to our world in EXACTLY the same way you can.
Competition exists solely in your mind, and is driven by the fears of the ego to be “better” as opposed to just BE, and be good enough for being and sharing exactly who you are. Competition drives people apart, when they can be working together in harmony for the good of all. Competition pits one person against the other; one company, lover, book, product, political party, religion, and even families. There is nothing to gain from competition when you are here to make a difference. Simply do your best! Enjoy every moment of what you are doing because it is a Divine expression of who you ARE, and what you can contribute, as opposed to having an ego need to “win”. Just BE your greatest self, and as you gain more self-confidence, you will realize that the greatest rewards come from working in harmony with others. So many more people benefit, and this world becomes so much of a better place. Isn’t that what it’s all about after all?
2. What good will it do for me to promote others?
R.H. Macy opened Macy’s Department store in New York City and was the FIRST person to set up a policy for his employees that if his store did not carry what a customer was looking for, that the employee must refer the customer to another store that would bring the customer what they wanted. It was unheard of then, and many people still will not refer people to their so-called “competition” out of FEAR of losing a customer.
What many people do not realize is this selfish and self-centered attitude will drive people AWAY from you, and your company, because you are not really looking to genuinely help another person – which is what matters most!
I refer and recommend other books by other spiritual, self-help authors because there are some great books out there that can help my clients. I do this out of care. I learned that by working in harmony with others, for the greater good of all, brings EVERYONE so many rewards! Instead of saying: “Look at ME” say: “Look at US!” When you align yourself with people of like mind to make a positive difference in this world, people feel it. You become a role model of sharing, as opposed to hoarding and grasping. You will find, as I have found, that there is so much JOY in promoting others, and helping others, because you care about making a difference.
You will NEVER lose your own light and purpose by working in harmony with others, as a matter of fact, you will gain so much more! When people work together to help people, it has a far greater rippling effect for positive change in this world. There is no greater gift than making a genuine difference. There is no greater way than by working WITH others for the highest good of all.
3. If I help my competition, won’t that take away from what I can gain?
NEVER, Ever, Ever! You are NOT “helping the competition” you ARE working in harmony with others – there is a BIG difference! Consider the example of two authors putting on a joint seminar to help people. or two, even twenty people, promoting each other’s work, to share their messages to uplift the lives of others. There is no greater reward than aligning with people of like-mind to make a genuine difference. EVERYONE gains – and that is WHY you are here – to make a difference, and the greatest way is by working WITH others, as opposed to being fear-based, and trying to “take” it all just for yourself.
4. How can working in harmony with others help me?
The greatest thing you can do is to build a genuine support system with others who are on a similar path. You will discover that you are no longer working solo, you will have wonderful people to turn to for guidance, support, and they can turn to you as well. You can create many new areas of advancement for life on Earth when you are working in harmony with others. No one can do it ALL ALONE! We all need the support of each other to bounce ideas off of each other, create new ventures, and by working together, the path becomes so much easier, because there is a sense of camaraderie and kinship that shines as an example for others.
I have found that my greatest joy is in working in harmony with others. I share all of the contacts and resources I come across to help the people that visit my website, and contact me. The only motive is to be of genuine service, and by working with others, sharing, and even promoting other people’s wonderful work, I can be of better service to YOU! This is what it is all about – and it has made a positive impact both in my own life, as well as in the lives of countless people. THAT is the reward -and it feels incredible!
5. What good will a win/win attitude do for other people?
It will help other people thrive. It will help bring the contributions of others to humanity, for the sole purpose of helping people to evolve to become their highest and best. This is a gift, and it is only by working WITH others, and FOR the benefit of others that the rewards do carry a tremendous rippling effect that can alter the course of so many lives. I have seen this happen so many times! Once people realize that we are all ONE, and we are all here to make a difference, it becomes about making a difference for others, and seeing the positive results that you will never again want to work completely solo. Working with a win/win attitude in cooperation with others will bring you far greater rewards because of the difference you are making. How profoundly wonderful that is!
6. How can I align myself with others authentically?
This is the simplest part of all – from your heart! When you contact others to work in harmony with them, to carry your messages, products, and services to uplift the lives of others, your heart and motives will be felt by the people you contact. They will “know” you are coming from a pure place, and will be HONORED to work with you! As a result, you will begin to build a great support network, filled with people who support one another in so many areas, and as a result of your efforts combined, you will ALL make a far greater difference than you EVER would by trying to “beat the competition.”
The simplest thing to do is to pick up the phone, or send an e-mail, and state what you would like to do with others, FOR others, and create a positive way to work together. This carries the highest energy, and it can only come from your heart to TRULY make a difference. You will beam and glow, as you see how it all perfectly unfolds!
7. What is the best thing I can do with respect to my competition?
First realize that they are NOT your competition – they are here to make a difference exactly as you are. The best thing to do is JOIN with them – to create an even greater difference together. The rewards for all are fantastic and life altering. By aligning yourself with others, you are now forming a TEAM, where all of your efforts combined will make a far greater difference than your efforts would if you continued to work solo. There is so MUCH to gain, but like anything else, you motive MUST be pure, and truly come from your heart, so that others really feel where you are coming from. Then, and only then, will your efforts, and the results of your intentions return to you multiplied in the most positive and altruistic sense for all.
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