By Barbara Rose, PhD
I know what it feels like to worry about what other people will think of me. I used to feel tremendous fear and anxiety during that phase of my life when I was facing a choice of either moving forward into the field of broadcast journalism or into the field I am in now and will be in for as long as I live.
Fear of what others will think has prevented many people I have spoken with from following their own truth. Instead, they held themselves back and remained unfulfilled inside.
Nobody can force you to make the positive changes you would like to make in your life. Nobody can make your choices for you. Did you ever stop to consider whether all of the people whose opinions you may be concerned about ever come to you asking for guidance about their lives?
Think about it for a moment. Who are “they” to begin with? Family, friends, neighbors, people who live in your part of the world? And what do “they” think? What if they told you they think the direction you are contemplating is fantastic and wonderful? What then? Would you then have a new worry about success or failure? Would you worry about whether you were good enough in your field of service?
You see, all of the above–what people think, what you think, success, failure, being good enough–it all comes from the passion you feel about what you are doing, being, creating, and expressing from your heart. That is all that matters.
Suppose you love to teach children. Does this mean that you need to receive the award for most popular teacher every year or a Ph.D. in education to make a true and lasting difference for the children? Don’t people and children feel your care? Yes, they do. Don’t you feel it when someone truly cares about you? Yes, you do.
Do they need a certain title or a certain appearance to touch your heart and brighten your day? No, they don’t. What matters most is purity of motive. Moreover, that is what you really feel coming from other people, their motives.
If your motive is pure and from your heart, there is no such thing as failure. Whether a business succeeds or a financial venture profits has nothing to do with the goodness in your heart or with your true worth.
No one gave you this goodness and no one can ever take it away.
The feelings you have about yourself are completely based on how you view yourself. To transform your self-view to match your ideal, you can come to trust and rely on the process of receiving the higher perspective from God through your writings.
Trusting the Process
It does take time and many small experiences to build that trust. As you experience receiving new realizations, support, and the pure views you can have about yourself along with how to integrate these pure views, you will come to find that this process is so pure, and so priceless.
It is important for you to realize that your current level of consciousness, those views that you currently hold about yourself truly cannot be transformed at the same level of awareness that you have now. If that were possible, then you would have already transformed your views of self, and you would feel pure self-love and acceptance.
To receive the higher view or perspective, all you need to do is write from your heart and ask your Higher Self to give it to you. Then, re-read what you receive.
© Copyright 2011 Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved. Excerpt from Dear God, How Can I Finally Love Myself? (Published by The Rose Group, October 2006) ISBN: 0974145769.