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When to Leave Skid Marks in the Beginning of a Romantic Relationship

Relationship guidelines to keep you sane, with self esteem, high self worth when you first start seeing red flags in your relationship…

Stop Being the String Along

By Barbara Rose, PhD

The following guidelines are here to keep you sane, with self esteem, high self worth, and what to look out for at the onset of a romantic relationship that can be potentially destructive, leaving you feeling worthless.

When you notice any of the guidelines below, this is when to leave skid marks while you run in the opposite direction. As a result, you will preserve your sanity, your self worth, and you will attract a new partner who will treat you with the dignity and respect every human being deserves.

The Guidelines

  • The first degrading remark made to you must be the last.
  • The first time you are ordered around, as if you have a new dictator in your life.
  • Any time you are shoved, pushed, hit, smacked, and/or forced to do anything you do not feel entirely comfortable with.
  • When you are told what you can and cannot do.
  • When you are told how to spend your money.
  • Anytime you feel intimidated or scared of the other person.
  • The first time you are put down or insulted in front of other people.
  • When you are upset, speak up about your feelings, and are either ignored, told you are overreacting, and when your feelings are completely disregarded.
  • When the other person intentionally pushes your buttons to get an emotional reaction out of you.
  • When the other person plays jealousy games with you.

  • The first time you are stood up, without a call in advance, and there was not an emergency situation.
  • When you are told that your religious or spiritual preferences are wrong, and need to change to suit the other person.
  • When you begin to notice a pattern that causes you to constantly feel emotionally, mentally, physically or financially drained, and nothing is changing.
  • When you feel you are being used.
  • When you are lied to.
  • When you are only called last minute and never have any pre-set plans to get together.
  • When you are told that he or she does not want to be in a relationship.

    If you experience any of the above, it is time to move on. If you remain in the relationship, then you will be stringing yourself along, crying yourself to sleep, and wondering why you feel so terrible.

    When you feel that you are being played, honor your feelings, because they are your truth. When you honor your truth guess what will happen? You will attract someone else who will be a joy in your life as opposed to a misery.

    As you follow your truth, your self esteem and self worth are going to grow rapidly. This is what attracts a partner who will be awesome for you – it all stems from your honoring your truth. I hope these guidelines have helped you. I can share with you that since I have been following the above guidelines, it has made an enormous difference in my life. I actually feel the inner confidence to live it all out, which is entirely empowering and freeing. I am sure you will feel the same way, too.

    © Copyright 2011 by Barbara Rose, PhD All Rights Reserved. Article abstract based on the book Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE

    Published by The Rose Group (April 2005) ISBN: 0974145742

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    By Barbara Rose, PhD| Bestselling Author 33 Books| Higher Self Relationship & Life Transformation Expert| SAG-AFTRA

    Bestselling Author of 33 Books| Global Higher Self Relationship & Life Transformation Expert| Public Speaker| Actor SAG-AFTRA

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